Real sweetness is based on truth.

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Message for the day 18-05-2011
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Real sweetness is based on truth.

Projection: Real sweetness is living on the line of truth, where we are able to
see what is really happening away from the show of words. When we are working on
our inner sweetness, we can never be cheated by any situation. Time doesn't
teach us to change, but we are able to bring about a change in time.
Solution: What I need to do is to understand the uniqueness of my life and base
it on this truth. Knowing that my life has its own unique purpose and meaning
will enable me to enjoy the greatness of life adding sweetness to it.
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Soul Sustenance 18-05-2011
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Resolving Conflicts in Relationships (cont.)
During a conflict, it is good to realize that the energy that you put into the
conflict will possibly be the quality of energy that you will receive in return.
This is the law of reciprocity (cause and effect). On a subtle level, we radiate
according to our attitude, and on a physical level, we radiate according to our
behavior. What we transmit on a subtle or/and physical level will return to us
in a similar way; unless the 'other' is 'wiser' and decides not to give us back
the same negative energy, but rather to treat us in exchange with a positive
attitude and pro-active behavior. That way, that person won't bring about a
dependence inside us, but rather they will help us to free ourselves of our own
negativity.
Often, conflict between two people happens because we do not get the result in a
relationship that we want; we are stuck to getting a specific result and we
allow our happiness to depend on getting it. On not getting it, we use a wrong
method; we generate a conflict, we feel ourselves to be victims, we blame the
other, we project our pain onto them; all of this under the belief that others -
the other - is who makes us happy or unhappy. This is a false belief.
When your happiness depends on your expectations being fulfilled, it is
difficult to be happy in a constant way. Often expectations are disguised
desires, and where there are desires there is fear - the fear of not getting
what you want. When you don't get it you get unhappy and, in so doing, you keep
happiness away from you. It is good to set yourself goals of peaceful
relationships, but if they are not fulfilled or if these goals take time to
achieve, don't lose your sense of wellbeing. Your happiness is a much more
valuable treasure than the external achievement of your expectations and of
those that others have of you.

In Spiritual Service,
Brahma Kumaris

The positivity within is reflected in sweetness in the words.

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Message for the day 17-05-2011
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The positivity within is reflected in sweetness in the words.

Projection: Things do not always go the way we want them to. If we allow ourselves to get influenced by the situation, it is reflected in our words, which tend to become bitter. But if we are able to maintain our positivity even in negative situations, there will be sweetness in our words.

Solution: When I am faced with a difficult situation, my effort should be to maintain the positivity in my mind. For this I must remind myself that each and every moment is worth a lot, which I must be able to enjoy. I must have the joy of being alive and happy. When I will be able to do this, there will be sweetness in my words.

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Soul Sustenance 17-05-2011
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Resolving Conflicts In Relationships

In relationships, sometimes we feel that the other person is not only a problem but also a source of conflicts. We have to be aware that there always have to be two people involved for there to be an unhappy or conflictive exchange. When we are in any conflict, it is difficult to see and understand the true causes and the real energy of the process of the conflict. The emotions that arise inside us during a conflict distract us and even blind us.

In the first place, it is important to recognize that your response in any situation of conflict is your contribution to the conflict. The process of responding to any person or situation is something that takes place in you. Nothing can make you feel anything without your permission. If you have been in conflict with someone for a time, for sure, you create fear or anger towards them, expressing thus behaviors of resistance when you communicate or relate to them. The other person is not responsible for your emotions or for your behavior.

Your experience of conflict and your contribution to the conflict begin in your consciousness and you keep them in your consciousness. It begins with your perception of the other (how you see others). If you perceive them negatively you will think negatively; you will feel negative and create a negative attitude; you will behave negatively, and so you will transmit a negative energy. You don't have to do it like that. Perception is a choice.

When there is conflict there is mental and emotional pain, even physical. Who creates that pain? You! Who creates at least half of the conflict? You! Where do you dissolve it? In your consciousness - in you. Freeing yourself of the conflict is a matter of a decision. At any moment you can decide not to be in conflict. One party has to dissolve their contribution to the conflict, even if it is temporarily, for the process of resolution to be able to begin.

(To be continued tomorrow…)


In Spiritual Service,
Brahma Kumaris

Correction with sweetness is more effective than words spoken with anger.

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Message for the day 16-05-2011
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Correction with sweetness is more effective than words spoken with anger.

Projection: We need to be sweet while we have to correct or point out someone's mistake. When we do that, what goes across to them is the feeling and not the words. If there were to be anger or dislike while correcting them, the response we get would be negative too.

Solution: When I do have to correct someone, it is necessary to remind myself of being sweet, not just in my words, but in my attitude too. For this I need to practice having good wishes for the one I want to bring a change in. Love combined with sweetness will surely work, and I'll definitely be able to notice a change.

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Soul Sustenance 16-05-2011
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